[Wilhelm Tell]

I am a fulltime caregiver. 11 1/2 years now.

Wow. That must be rough. I hope you have someone to share the burden. What often happens is that one or two family members will do most of the work and everyone else will distance themselves. I know one woman who is taking care of her terminally ill mother. Her siblings have distanced themselves -- the are very rude whenever she asks for anything, which is seldom. What is ironic is that she is the least liked child in this dysfunctional family and yet she is doing all the work. The "good" children who were favored feel like they are entitled to not help at all. People can be cruel.

[JoeSixPack1]

You nailed it 100%.

My older brother, the golden boy when we were kids back home, told me in no uncertain terms, in fact, let me quote what he said when just 2 months ago I finally succumbed to the pressure and asked for some help "NO HOW, NO WAY, NO F'''ING WAY".