Posted on 01/07/2024 2:32:18 PM PST by Eleutheria5
Thank you for your assessment. I haven’t looked at the YouTube or other materials yet. Now I won’t. I wanted to read some reviews about the “author” before I used my time to get entrenched. Narcissism is a dangerous, dangerous thing and people toss the term around loosely. I won’t waste my time on advice from someone unless they are finely tuned in on the subject.
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Thank you for sharing this! I feel less alone! I have a birth sister (I was adopted, thank God) who only calls when she needs something - but is otherwise narcissistic and nasty. I’ve been planning to answer the phone in exactly the same manner that you just posted! 😎
Personally I prefer to just slap a narcissist across the face.
Shuts ‘em up every time.
No. It’ll cause them to explode and have a tantrum, according to the video. Unless it’s a good, proper b!tch-slap, according to me.
Alternate title: How to Deal with a Democrat.
Exactly why this interests me.
Wish I would have talked to your 2 1/2 years ago. I have a DIL from a very deep pit of hell. Poor girl lost touch with her own humanity in childhood due to abuse. Giving in to a narcissist is only feeding a monster and can be fatal...I now know.
Were there grandkids involved? Not that that should make a difference.
Dr. Carter and Dr. Ramani
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Yes, both excellent resources. I especially like Dr. Carter’s videos.
We dealt with a sociopathic malignant narcissist in court. Zung was very helpful.
I didn’t know she had become an expert in malignant narcissism - or that such ever existed before I was today years old.
I do know I referred a client for her not-You-T00b job (attorney), but won’t ever make that mistake again.
“ Dont play with the narcissist and stick to your guns.”
What does this even mean?
Don’t engage with him and don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by whatever they do. Narcissists will say whatever it takes for you to back down, which would include crying or threatening to self-harm.
Not yet.
But even for them, I would not play the game. I staked out my mess-around-and-find-out zone right away.
I am a no bull gal. I don’t play games and never have. I like peace and harmony, doing good for others, and behaving in an honorable fashion.
Subterfuge and mind games disgust me and I will not tolerate them.
My sister is amazed that I can drop people and never look back. I told her it is a skill I honed over the years and life is better for it.
Yes, I love his “Dignity, Respect, Civility” thing and the way he encourages you to keep calm and your own head straight and concentrate on your own “DRC” instead of getting all caught up in trying to “win” against a narc.
I’ve been dealing with a covert narcissist for 40 years. Many times, the easiest way to let them think they’re winning is to say nothing.
If you’re an engineer & approach everything as “here, this will fix” your squawking, all you’ll get it blowback.
Silence is best.
Yup. Once you start trying to “win” against a narcissist, you’re already suckered into her game. And you will lose.
I agree.
The ignorant parent narcissists and their enablers use the grandchildren as weapons, oblivious to the emotional damage they are doing to them. It feels like a noble cause to try and make it work however you can, for their sake.
BUT anytime power is handed over to those types of people it will always make things worse.
You mentioned fatal.
Is that too painful a story to share?
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