My wife and I agree, there is only ONE WAY to load a dishwasher!.....Alone.
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Here’s my short and concise answer.
Because the kinds of people who would not move in together before marriage have traditional morals and values. Those are the same kind of people who believe in making marriage work and making it healthy.
Plain and simple.
Co-habitating is just practicing for divorce.
When was the first marriage?
I think arranged marriages may have been the norm for thousands of years. Of course, not likely today except for traditional cultures.
I think the act of moving in together sets up a mindset that either one can end it, so there’s no real joining because each one has the mindset of being able to end it. They don’t have to have the level of commitment to make it work.
The reason for the statistical divide has to do with the character of the domestic players.
They are lacking commitment, a critical feature.
Marriage, over the long haul, is an act of will, not of feeling.
I would think living together actually makes it harder to call off a marriage that is ultimately doomed to fail.
Seems that if you don’t live together, it makes it easier to just walk away.
Oh boy.
This could be a nasty thread.
Anyway, shacking up is a waste of time.
Isn’t it weird that immoral people eschew “marriage” but feel the need to play house and “stay faithful”? (Let’s not ignore the main point is to have regular sex and feel like one is moral about it.)
If you actually stay faithful in your dating years, you’ve wasted many potential mates. I say you need to shop around. You need to be open.
Then you make the full commitment after you’ve checked those fish in the sea.
“Go call your husband”
“Sir I have no husband”
“Well have you spoken”
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“Because the husband you have is not your own”
John Chapter 4
Been telling young people for decades that All or nothing at all is the only way to approach any long-term relationship. IF you aren’t willing to give your all to another person on a permanent basis, no matter WHAT happens, then you aren’t ready to live together either. Marriage doesn’t alway shut the door completely but it DOES remove your own foot from the door of leaving and creates the feeling of permanence that is essential for building trust in each other. “One only keeps a foot in the door if there is an intention to use it”. L.Star
And then she’s alone, 5-10 years older, and all her girlfriends/wingmen have paired up and moved on.
Shacking up... perhaps indicative of an overall lack of respect for marriage... this is not rocket surgery ...
Traditional marriage implies a vow to God, which implies a fear of God.
Today, most young people have no idea what this means.
People who believe in tradition behave in a traditional manner are less likely to divorce. Why would that surprise anyone?
Because women marry men hoping to change them and men marry women hoping they will stay the same.
Son #1 leased an apartment with fiancé almost two years before they got married. Her parents had decided that she was to take over ALL the chores and that her 3 teenage brothers (13, 15, and 17) were to have zero responsibilities. Basically, they made her Cinderella. She complained, they showed her the door. My son co-signed her apartment lease, paid for half, but continued to live with us until they got married, a two year wait, then he moved in.
Son #2 bought a house 6 months before he got married. His fiancé continued to live her parents until after the wedding. Because they lived close to his place of employment, he would often crash on their couch, but he did not share her bed until the honeymoon.
Son #1 probably did a bit of sampling pre-nuptials, but Son #2 was adamant about not doing so. Neither thought living with their future spouse before getting married was a good idea.
“” a statistic that shocked hosts Jordyn Woodruff and Alex Bennett of Barstool Sports’ “Mean Girl” podcast in Wednesday’s episode.””
One reason life is so exhausting is that the statistics have been saying this for far more than 50 years, yet it never takes.
If media and education and entertainment didn’t keep saturating people with falshoods, America would be completely different.