Posted on 01/09/2023 9:17:23 AM PST by SeekAndFind
I think that people who have moved in together decide to rescue their relationship that is not working by getting married and then when it does not improve their failing relationship decide to get a divorce...
Lol! 34 years and counting and she still can’t load the dishwasher right!
My son has found one
People who believe in tradition behave in a traditional manner are less likely to divorce. Why would that surprise anyone?
Excellent
Because women marry men hoping to change them and men marry women hoping they will stay the same.
“ single guy who has spent his entire life on airplanes just doesn’t care enough anymore”
Probably a good idea to not marry. You very likely could be a victim of AIDS.
Aviation
Induced
Divorce
Syndrome
The key is to find a mate with the same values (and preferably Faith).
Son #1 leased an apartment with fiancé almost two years before they got married. Her parents had decided that she was to take over ALL the chores and that her 3 teenage brothers (13, 15, and 17) were to have zero responsibilities. Basically, they made her Cinderella. She complained, they showed her the door. My son co-signed her apartment lease, paid for half, but continued to live with us until they got married, a two year wait, then he moved in.
Son #2 bought a house 6 months before he got married. His fiancé continued to live her parents until after the wedding. Because they lived close to his place of employment, he would often crash on their couch, but he did not share her bed until the honeymoon.
Son #1 probably did a bit of sampling pre-nuptials, but Son #2 was adamant about not doing so. Neither thought living with their future spouse before getting married was a good idea.
How are their respective marriages turning out?
Just the 2 of us too. About 2/3s of the time we prep and cook together. Leftovers tend to be make your own plate.
Dishwasher died at beginning of lockdown so we eat watching Jeopardy (MST) and hand wash and dry dishes together during Wheel of Fortune. It is fun.
“” a statistic that shocked hosts Jordyn Woodruff and Alex Bennett of Barstool Sports’ “Mean Girl” podcast in Wednesday’s episode.””
One reason life is so exhausting is that the statistics have been saying this for far more than 50 years, yet it never takes.
If media and education and entertainment didn’t keep saturating people with falshoods, America would be completely different.
the pastor at a church I went to at one time recounted this story.
He said that in the 1990’s he’d marry people and they’d come back several years later for marriage counseling. Invariably the problem was that they had been sleeping together before marriage. As a result, there was not transition between not married and married. So the woman had no confidence in the permanence of their marriage or their husbands commitment to them. The women just didn’t feel married. Rather they felt more alone and vulnerable.
After too many episodes of this the pastor installed new rules over how he would do marriages. People, if they had been sleeping together had to spend a certain period celebate. (I’ve forgotten just how long.) Also, they had to go through marriage counseling.
When it is all about me, your marriage is already on the road to ruin. When it is about genuine commitment and love for your marital partner, it just might work out.
Spoken as a guy married for 38 + years to a woman that I genuinely loved as she did me until heaven reclaimed her about two months ago.
Here in Indy it’s WOF first and Jeopardy second. That’s the same time as we sit down to eat, too. For leftovers, if there’s not enough for a whole other meal for both of us, we may use some as an appetizer, or sometimes we come up with entirely new dishes created from the leftovers. As an example, grilled (or baked) chicken leftovers can be tossed on a salad with sautéed corn and salad veggies of your choice. Throw in some sliced avocado, tomatoes, and Colby Jack cheese. Top with ranch dressing that’s been jazzed up with chipotle seasoning, and now the salad takes on a South of the border flare. Even more fun with tortilla strips or wedges.
After we use roast pork for dinner, we might use the extras to make Cuban sandwiches, something I love from youth.
We absolutely love leftovers, especially when they show up as something totally different a few days later. We try hard not to waste any food, especially these days when groceries cost an arm and a leg.
Son #1 has been married for 8 years. So far, so good. I have a beautiful granddaughter. My DIL is a stay at home mom.
Son #2 got married last October. He starts the Police Academy next week. We will see.
With marriage you are making a commitment, but with just living together you are admitting you aren’t really committed to making a marriage work and want to make sure you have an easy “out”.
Look, your spouse is going to piss you off at times. Plan ahead to just get over it and forgive them when they do. In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, and even when she leaves off the top of the toothpaste and he leaves the toilet seat up.
Our dishwasher broke last fall. I showed my 28 year-old son how to wash the dishes by hand.
After he finished washing them, he asked, “Is this how they did it in the Olden Days?”
We are still married.
I'm beginning to suspect she may be The One.
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