I used to drive 65 miles ONE WAY to work............................
65 miles one way is way too long for me. Even if you assume highway driving the entire way, that’s 500 hours per year (20 entire days per year) you are effectively working unpaid, plus gas and wear/tear/maintenance on vehicle costs. My current job (35 min each way 3 days a week) is about as much as I’d go and I only did that because it was $100k/yr pre-tax more than my prior job. At that distance, it would be significantly cheaper to buy another home near work and just rent out the old home / sell old home.