Any judgement that a rational person makes regarding the character of a person of color, subjects that rational person to being labeled a racist and being “cancelled”. This reflex to scream Racism! will not stop people from making their judgments. However it will promote strenuous social and physical segregation since white people will conclude that any relations with people of color is likely to lead to unpleasant costly experiences if honest dialogue were to occur between them.
You are correct in general. However, I think she blamed his criticism on his being a jilted lover as opposed to being racist. They will use any tool in their book to criticize a white person fighting racism charges against anybody.