Never understood eating such hot peppers that you can’t taste the food.
Like most other foods you build up a tolerance. If you don't eat spicy foods and try a superhot pepper you will think you are going to die. If you eat them all the time you notice the flavor.
Another thing I do is to cook with powders. Even with the hottest powders you can control the heat by adding a little, checking the heat and adjusting it to your preference.