I guess it is never too late to get a divorce...
This is very sad. If you are married to an abusive person, I can understand how divorce is the only way to get some semblance of a life back. If you just seem to not ‘connect’ anymore, you should try as hard as you can to figure that out.
Well, I’ve heard of it. My wife and I are both over 50; this isn’t the first rodeo for either of us, we’ve been together for 22 years; we’ve just resigned ourselves to the fact that sooner or later, one of us is going to be spoon-feeding the other their applesauce for lunch at the nursing home. It could be worse.
Do these folks not know that a divorced couple with one spouse eligible for social security can get raise their benefit as much as from $29000 to $42000? And, that Medicaid cannot recover long term nursing home care benefits from assets awarded to the community spouse in a divorce preceding?
Of course they are getting divorced.
It’s Boomers. They’ve demonstrated most of their lives that marriages are just for convenience and when they stop being convenient - out they go. Or perhaps seniors are the only ones with enough money left that women will divorce to get half of it. Take your pick.
From the headline, I figured it was about elderly couples getting divorced. ....Article never mentioned age.
There are certainly many exceptions but most of the divorces among people I’ve known fall into one of two broad categories:
(1) Within the first 5 years (i.e., this was a bad match and one or both parties want out pretty quickly).
or (2) After the youngest kid turns 18.
I will say, though, I heard a few years ago about a high school classmate whose parents called it quits after like 45 years of marriage. I don’t really get that. If you’ve stuck out that long, why bother?
I’m 24 years in. And we have our ups and downs, and shout em outs! But we also have commitment, you know, your word that you gave when married. We also understand how incredibly hard it can be to live with a completely different human at times and practice forgiveness.
When you are diagnosed with colorectal cancer, and: your spouse declares that you had to go out there and get it, then, complains to you about the medical Bill’s for your treatments and surgery, and your oncologist suggests getting rid of your spouse is one of your options, you make the choice.
Happens a lot in Japan. As soon as the guy retires and goes home, divorce. Not sure if it is because she gets a share of the retirement then, or that couple need vital space or that the younger lady sees herself getting no inheritance...
At 20 years in, the kids are leaving. For some, that was the only tie left.
I’ve always liked the old joke about the couple who filed for divorce after 75 years of marriage, when they were both in their late 90s. When asked why they hadn’t divorced earlier, they said, “We wanted to wait until the children were dead.”
I’m 75 years old and been married for almost 48 years.
I know why people divorce and why they stay together.
One thing I know: a difficult marriage never gets any easier. And “the golden years” are a myth.