“she doesn’t want you to solve her issues, she just wants to talk about them.”
This...is the most baffling truism of marriage.
Her: “I neeeeeed you to understaaaaand what I’m feeeeeling about this problem.”
Him: “If we _solved_ the problem, there wouldn’t BE a problem.”
On YouTube, look up “Nail in Forehead” video.
Men are hunters women are nesters. Being a hunter requires quick action. No feelings not a lot of talking.