I am in full support of your statement, and am re-posting with the additional comment here, that the more we learn, the more it becomes clear that, she is a consummate pro, and has handlers that not only coached her, but have controlled her statements to the press. Since the hearing, there has been photo evidence of payoffs to her lawyers, and a witch hunt for anything to derail Kavanaugh’s nomination. Here is my re-post:
An unpopular read on Ms. Cristine Blasey Ford, and how she dealt with Kavanaugh.
If you have ever (not just you, but anybody) dealt with a person, male or female, that has had life long abuse, life long counseling, you recognize immediately that your dealing with an expert on the subject, they have played the counseling game for so long, that they know the script.
They are experts at evasion. Compound that with the fact that she dedicated her life and career to psychology, and in fact became a teacher and professor in the field, tells the reader important facts about the person who represses this memory for 35+ years.
She is a control freak who thinks nobody knows or can tell her how to fix or deal with her problem, so begins a life long study in healing herself.
Of course, this is doomed to failure, but a compulsive personality will never admit that. They use charm, and wit, victim hood, and deflection like a seasoned pro, to get what they want. Living with a person like this is an untenable situation. You want to help, but nothing you do is good enough, as their value is to remain a victim, to them.
What is gained by dealing with, and resolving a trauma to this kind of person? Nothing.
If that were to happen, it would create a huge hole in their lives that would have to be filled with reality, and actual healing.
An obsessive, compulsive person is also a controlling person. They control the people around them, the narrative, the drama. This is so damaging not just to the person, but to those around them. The result is that they have distant friends. Those who can tolerate being around them for short periods of time, but do not want to be brought into the drama, as most people are not equipped to deal with it on a permanent basis.
Next, add a PHD to the mix, and she becomes an authority on the subject, she knows the patter, she knows the buzz words, she can easily lay low the less educated, and I saw in her testimony hints of disdain, or outright rejection for those who would question her story line.
When confronted with the overwhelming contradicting evidence of those who were supposedly there, she impeached the witnesses, or minimize them, or made convincing reasons why they answered as they did.
What you get to the outsider is a true victim, who deserves your sympathy, with the feeling that something happened to this person, but it seems they have the wrong aggressor. You don’t know why, and feel that somehow your a bad person for feeling that way. It part of their game. And unless you have lived it, you see no defense that would be acceptable to others.
She is a permanent professional victim. I don’t know if she is still married, but I did not see a husband, I have not seen supporting children, and most importantly the friends I have seen talking on YouTube fall right into the category I have described, distant, concerned, but not overly involved.
You cannot win with a person who does not care about winning, her entire support structure, is in large part herself. I would have felt sorry for her plight, except that I know this kind of person, and that would have required me to buy into her drama, been there, done that, and I will never again live thru it again.
As for how Kavanaugh dealt with her personally, he had no other choice but to acknowledge her pain, and use evidence to protect himself. At no point was she, IMO, seeking healing, or an end to her self imposed torment. I feel sorry for her in that regard.
I was a young woman in the 80’s and I dealt with MUCH WORSE than she is ALLEGING, as with most other women and did not consider myself a “victim”. What she describes does not even constitute real sexual assault and would not have left most women with PTSD.
But it didn’t happen, and nobody really thinks it happened. Just like nobody really believed that Al Gore’s presidency was “stolen” because the people of Florida were too stupid to vote correctly. It was a convenient thing to “believe” - so they claimed to believe it to advance their agenda. Nothing more
But we should be free to speak sensibly about it and we are not. The media cannot say the obvious for fear of losing their jobs or viewers, etc. unless they grant her legitimacy that she does not deserve. It is a TRAVESTY