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WHY PEOPLE TALK TOO MUCH, AND WHY IT'S A PROBLEM
WHAT you have to say isn't as interesting as you think. Here's why people tend to talk more than they listen, and why it's a problem.
SARAH MICHAEL
NewsComAu OCTOBER 19, 2013 10:47AM
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Who talks too much?Social psychologist Gemma Cribb says the people who are most likely to be over-talkers are:
• People with Asperger's-type disorders.
• People who are anxious and babble out of nerves, trying to please the person they are talking to.
• Narcissists, who think that what they have to say is very important and entertaining.
Clinical psychologist Bob Montgomery says some people grow up with the "bad habit" of talking without listening.
This is a problem, because communication problems often underlie many other problems people have in their relationships.
"One of the most powerful communication skills you'll learn is good listening," Dr Montgomery said. "Communication is meant to promote understanding. You can't wind up understanding each other if you're not actively listening."
And if you are trying to convince somebody of something, listening is a much more powerful tool than talking.
"Listening actually strengthens your influence. Showing you're willing to hear the other person means you've then bought the right to offer your opinion or make your request," Dr Montgomery.
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