Posted on 02/06/2018 10:02:29 AM PST by C19fan
Haven’t met too many guys who planned their wedding from the age of 6. It’s mainly a girly thing.
NO just the CASH!!!
No, we don’t.
I found all that to be a big pain and I didn’t enjoy it at all.
I didn’t even feel right accepting gift cards at the wedding itself. I wold have been happy just for everyone to come and have a good time.
No, I wouldn’t.
But I wouldn’t be mad either. I would just go about my own business.
My wife and I included wedding registry items that were less than $10. Of course, we also had a few that were in the hundreds, in case someone feels extra generous.
You would not owe any explanation as to why you declined. I assume you are not a close relative. But I do admit I would be tempted to state “We appreciate your offer to participate in your fund raiser. However we find that our planned charitable contributions have reached our annual limit.”
Here’s an idea. Try using this sentence:
NO
I got married at a 5-star resort on the shore in Hawaii. It cost me $17.00 - for my dress (not wedding gown) on the sale rack at Penney’s. I was Wedding Coordinator there and got permission to use the wedding garden any time the area wasn’t being used.
We gave our church’s preacher $50 for officiating. My best friend made a cake and punch that we had by the pool at her house. There were 10 of us. I ordered my bouquet from the hotel florist, and she ended up not charging me. (I had thrown thousands of dollars in profits her way over the years.)
There was no way we were going to do a big production. In my job I had seen wretched ecxess in the weddings I arranged, and had dealt with actual bridezillas (and their mothers). It really soured me on the whole hoopla.
Here the bride’s family pays for the wedding, the groom’s pays for the rehearsal dinner. Most are not all that over the top, church weddings. The nice destination is the honeymoon. I’d be suspicious of a too-expensive wedding, bad priorities. Wouldn’t give the couple much chance of remaining married, being so self-consciously grand from the very outset.
A onetime friend, a famous parody singer and music video master, got married about 16 years ago and at the time he (or his future wife) listed an extensive wedding wish list. I knew several fans who happily bought him and his fiancée something from the list. That turned me off since he was already a millionaire several times over.
Send back saying the money is being spent on OUR vacation.
Send back saying the money is being spent on OUR vacation.
"She" your acquaintance, or "she" the bride?
Our marriage was also done on the cheap:
$25 - Pastor
$25 - Organist
$25 - Janitor
$25 - Church Fund
We had about 25 guests and we held our reception at my house (I purchased my parents' old home when they retired, it was a very small house), my parents paid for the food, my oldest brother bought the booze, and my best friend's sister made wedding cakes and that was her gift to us.
I wore a suit and I did splurge and bought my wife a three-piece, white, Pendelton wool suit and she wore the skirt and suit coat at the wedding. I don't count that expense as she wore the skirt or slacks with that suit coat many times after.
That was 36 years ago.
Smart. Those multi-thousand-dollar weddings are ridiculous.
I’m liking the white Pendelton wedding suit. That’s a classic forever outfit!
This happened in March 1982. I admit the Pendelton suit cost us $300 but she did wear it a lot after our wedding and every time she wore it, it reminded us of our wedding.
About two years after our wedding I graduated college and returned to the Air Force as a Commissioned Officer. Her suit was great at the semi-formal functions and people always complimented her on it. She would tell them the story about wearing it for our wedding and they would always think it was great.
What galls me is a wedding invitation to a grand-neice’s wedding that my wife insists we attend ... plane ticket? $3500 US.
It is thoughtful to include a variety of price points. And if someone wants to gift you a private island, you don’t want them to feel like an outlier!
We used to call people like you "normal people," but social media appears to be shifting the norm so that more people make a fuss on the internet.
libertylover wrote: "..."She" your acquaintance, or "she" the bride?"
The acquaintance covered the costs of her family attending the island wedding. She booked multiple rooms for herself and her spouse, two more rooms for her college age sons who each came with their girlfriends...as well paying for all related expenses - i.e. wedding gift, meals, local transportation etc.
I never heard of such 'wedding packages' before. It's quite the deal - have your guests pay for your or your daughter's wedding by booking it in a Caribbean resort making this offer.
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