How else would I call for my waitress or waiter?
Refer to them as THE STAFF.
Brother (Sister) It.
“How else would I call for my waitress or waiter?”
Well, “bitch” used to refer primarily to females, but has become a cross-over term recently. How about we call all their wait staff, “Bitch”?
Im a waitress, we are already the help. Eliminating sir or maam is just dehumanizing, IMO.
But, no one is forced to work in these freakshows. This policy guarantees (though I could be wrong) they will have servers who are not warm, friendly or gracious. Serving is a bit of theatre; you read the table and act accordingly in order to please the customer. People who put their preferred pronoun desires ahead of fabulous service will be crappy servers.