“It’s her wedding”
The groom won’t be there?
Exactly. To me a lot of it now days for too many couple comes down to who can spend the most money and have the most lavish and most talked about wedding, how can they one up the other weddings they’ve been to. And nothing about the importance and seriousness of the actual marriage ceremony and the vows. And there are some TV shows that promote this – Four Weddings and Say Yes To The Dress, etc. And I am flabbergasted on the amount of money being spent on weddings now days.
And I notice in her post, that there is no mention of love, no mention of a lifelong commitment as husband and wife and no mention of any intention to ever start a family of their own and of course no mention of marriage being a sacrament, no mention of God. No, it’s all about the wedding “experience” - showing off how classy and sophisticated they are (most likely how sophisticated she thinks or wants people to think she is) and how she must be the center of attention.
If she doesn’t want guests to bring their children, that is her prerogative and her guests should absolutely respect that and find a babysitter or stay home. But then if you read the whole thing, she’s actually pissed that some guests decided not to come, as if “how dare they put their children before me!”
I get that unruly children and the parents who cannot keep them under control or who never taught them manners can certainly be unpleasant and I also get why, especially during the wedding ceremony, that a crying baby or an unruly toddler running up and down the aisle would be a distraction. But even if that were to happen, is her wedding really ruined? Is she somehow no less married? Does the world end if all eyes are not trained on her the entire time?
And my goodness, if she can’t handle that, how is this precious snowflake going to handle it when she finds out that married life is not always picture perfect and worthy of documenting on Pinterest.
Call me selfish, but at my wedding, I want to be the center of attention.
If you want kids at your wedding, fine. But my fiancé and I aren't even particularly fond of kids; why would we have them at our wedding?
What’s the over/under on how long this marriage will last?
This is my feeling as well. Generally an evening wedding with a later reception is a formal black tie affair and an event that in past times guests would know would be without children present. It is definitely the choice of the couple to plan how they would like their event. What is more offensive is the idea that you pick a church to get married in because the architecture is stunning as opposed to say any connection you have with God. A church is merely a pretty building and the wedding merely a party to show off your good taste and maybe score some nice gifts that will be divided up during the divorce.
One friend had a daughter that planned her big fat Greek wedding for a year, which I attended and was one of the best parties I ever went to. But her relationship with her fiance had deteriorated and she wanted that big expensive wedding and went through with it, maybe thinking it would work out afterwards. They got divorced after three months. My friend was heartbroken.
Just hearing about her wedding plans would make me run away like a scalded ape!
Don’t mind her objecting to kids in the wedding, but a woman who wants a wedding like that isn’t going to stay married very long. Not unless there is a time limit in the pre-nup with her sugar daddy.