Posted on 09/09/2016 5:37:46 PM PDT by Chickensoup
It is important that they listen to their own gut. Two people may be perfect, but chemistry is huge. Their lives ultimately will be with each other. I think it’s important that if they are truly mature and full grown adult minded, then they should make that decision independently. Give the blessing and not say anymore. Both of them need to feel it out if they are compatible life long. Sometimes the very thing that attracts two people together are the things that drive them apart. It’s important to let time see if they are compatible and the chemistry is more than infatuation before a life time commitment. Just my honest opinion.
Of the people I grew up with or went to college with who married at about your son’s age, the best outcomes have been for those who were either pursuing degrees or had recently received them. That additional education and exosure to other experiences really have made a difference.
Your son and prospective daughter-in-law could certainly get engaged and then take their sweet time getting to know each other even better as they plan the wedding.
My wife and I married at 18. 43 years ago.
He is on his feet, works sixty hours a week and is independent. All his toys are paid for and he owns a truck and is saving a downpayment for a house.
Men do not grow up until they are married. We have millions of men that have stayed in puberty with no posterity. They say “why marry, with women handing it out”. Both sexes have bought in to the delay delay.
My advice: Have kids EARLY....none of this “lets learn about eachother for 5-10 years before kids”. Kids keep the marriage together if its healthy. Also, have the kids 12-15 months apart. Christian, white, gun owning, republican couples should have 4-5 kids to help outbreed the liberals and illegals.
They will do just fine-—I wish them well.
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Shia Labeouf has a very strong opinion about this situation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
Congratulations (seriously), but relations between the sexes was a totally different place 30-40-50-60-70 years ago.
My advice: wait, at least until after they graduate college (if they are in college..)
-Weather Guy, married at 22 in 1982 and celebrating my 34th wedding anniversary in October....LOLOLOL....
Depends upon how mature they really are..marriage isn’t for wusses
They are currently church-searching, and I suspect they will have more than two children from the little I hear them say.
I’d approve of marriage at or after graduation. That gives them time to discuss kids, plans, expectations, and everything else . . . and to see if there are any problems they didn’t notice yet. Sometimes people are on their best behavior at first, but that’s tough to sustain for two years.
Ah, as my bride told me... They have an opportunity to grow up together. And they have.
It sounds like she gets to be the primary wage-earner, and he’s only expected to provide as needed. That means she runs the family. That’s one strike against.
Also you use the term “yoked”. That’s pretty interesting if you think about it. Would you like to be yoked?
What an attractive turn of phrase. Perhaps branded as well?
It is sort of accurate for what awaits men in modern marriage.
Do him a favor and have him at least google MGTOW to understand the devastating problems that men have when marriages fail, particularly with young kids.
Insist on a pre-nup. Forget about her, you need to protect your SON from the ravages of the wildly anti-mail, libtard feminist courts which can literally DESTROY a young man with out a scintilla of remorse.
Exactly.
I was too young to recognize signs he had a drinking problem and porn problem that never improved but only worsened over time. He started treating me worse and worse and wouldn’t go for counseling. Couldn’t take anymore so had to get out.
I was too young to recognize signs he had a drinking problem and porn problem that never improved but only worsened over time. He started treating me worse and worse and wouldn’t go for counseling. Couldn’t take anymore so had to get out.
Question how long have they been dating seriously?
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