[lurk]

It is the use of the pronouns I Me My that is the problem here. Marriage is the demotion of the individual for the sake of the covenant.

[cport]

The I, me, my is referring to owning your feelings, or taking responsibility for your actions, in a disagreement or perceived slight, as opposed to a you statement, which is accusatory. But you are right as far as the sacrifice of self called for in the union.

I always love how secular people and feminists denigrate a Christian marriage because the woman is called to submit, but the verse right before that part of scripture in Ephesians 5 calls for a Christian household to "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ", and is followed by how the man is called to love as Christ did for the church, in other words, sacrifice everything for her. That is why feminists hate a man holding a door open for them, or any other act of chivalry. Its not that you can't do it yourself, ladies, its that real men are called to do it.