A rabbi told me an essential ingredient of long-term female happiness is some sense that SOMEhow she’s submitting to a man.
That makes sense if we consider that many women won’t hit on men, and women who aren’t hit upon somehow might not find a partner.
What if SOME FORCE inhibits almost ALL men from pursuing women?
If taking the partner approach initiative befell women and they all did succeed in getting men, would they nonethless feel happy, without having submitted to the advances of men..?
I think no.
Guys would not only get creeped out, but many women would later resent having to make the first move.
Men are turning to porn to avoid nasty legal and professional consequences, and both men and women will suffer the attendant negative consequences.
Thanks to a sustained effort of decades by Gramscian Socialism and Hollywood, the modern American woman, on average, simply is not a very pleasant person to be around. Exceptions occur, but they are becoming ever more rare. Men are little better, but usually suffer less from deliberate conditioning than from neglect.
When a modern American man meets a woman from a more traditional cultural background, however, traditional results rapidly occur.
Men don't prefer porn to women in general (who would?) - they prefer porn to the defective products of the Welfare State currently dominating the American dating marketplace.
Pepper Schwartz is a family life/sexologist at UW. She did a study of married couples to see what worked and what didn't. She published the results and two conclusions jumped out at me. First, that a marriage was over when the couple stopped treating each other with respect.
Second, and I thought more illustrating...she sought a way to predict whether a marriage would be successful. The most reliable predictor whether a marriage would be successful was...the willingness of a husband to defer to his wife.