Posted on 12/16/2014 4:54:36 PM PST by SeekAndFind
Maybe we should have boarding houses again where each person gets a room and the meals are eaten and served at a dining table downstairs.
There is something to be said for having others look out for you, at least someone would know if you’d been kidnapped or not. Now they’d probably have too much “nonsense” going on so there wouldn’t BE any safety.
What exactly is the author trying to say? He says its not a good thing to live alone, and says life was chaotic in his house growing up. But I don’t see where he says why it is not good to live alone. And he says he lives alone. He notes the contrast between life alone and a chaotic house without telling us what the downside of living alone is.
One of the things I miss most about having other people in the house is the opportunity to blame any mess on them.
Some of us are now beyond the chance to find a companion to share the last years.
There is always the downside of having a medical crisis and having no one to call 911.
It sounds like he dislikes having to take responsibility for his own life. He is used to being directed or alert and dislikes having to do it himself. It sounds like he equates living together with being taken care of and would prefer to be taken care of.
My grandmother remarried at 75ish.
Sounds like heaven. I love my daughters, but in general agree with Sartre.
I plan to die with dignity at the bottom of the basement stairs just like God intended.
Even with six people living in the house, I still have a maid come in every two weeks to do a deep cleaning. Best money my wife and I spend. So worth it and in the end gives us more time to have family time. Win-Win.
I think he is inferring that when living alone you have only your own needs to consider. The potential for becoming self centered is a downside.
There is always the downside of having a medical crisis and having no one to call 911.
Even with a bunch of people at home, you could be in another room, or others could be outside or shopping, working anything. No guarantees. Many people have died with others in the very home the death happened.
I have lived alone for maybe 12 months in my entire life. And since my wifes family has long life lines and mine doesn’t I don’t expect that number will change.
That’s not what he’s saying. Living alone makes it easy to be selfish. Living with others helps us get over our selfishness because we have to look out for each other. Living in tight spaces with others builds character.
I think the “living alone” definition is a little skewed. Many people are the only people living in their dwelling, but are nevertheless intimately connected to nearby family, friends and faith communities. I don’t count these as “living alone.”
After 30 years, raising 2 kids and two wives, (one at a time, of course), I’m glad to live alone.
I lived alone for 5 years, the last 1 1/2 with a steady girlfriend who lived with her parents. She never stayed during the week and on weekends I spent more time across the river at her folks house then she did at my place.
Even when we got engaged, she stayed with her folks. After we got married, I shut the place down, sold all my stuff and we rented an apartment where we bought the minimal to get us started.
Been married 25 years to that lovely gal.
My grandmother is 88 Years old and lives alone. It helps that she knows every other elderly person in town, my sister lives a couple blocks away, and other family visits pretty much daily.
Living like a slob has nothing to do with living alone. Plenty of singles keep their homes immaculate and plenty of homes with multiple residents are pig stys.
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