Abuse and discipline are two different things.
Some people don’t understand the difference.
Do you understand the difference?
Why are you working so hard on this thread to defend child abusers newbie?
Define abuse.
Why are you working so hard on this thread to defend child abusers newbie?
Your tagline says you won’t be ridiculed into silence. Why use a word such as “newbie”? Isn’t that an attempt to ridicule?
I just think that unless discipline rises to actual physical imprints that last for a day or longer, it is not abuse. Spank a child, leave a reddened bottom, not abuse.
Use a switch or spoon, leave a bruise or welts consistently, borderline, maybe a red flag.
Leave marks weekly, monthly or daily, definite abuse.
Many times parents need to be given the slack to regret and change without the interference of outside forces. Sometimes, and I mean rarely, someone has to step in. “This will hurt me more than it hurts you” comes to mind.
A parent that revels in discipline, is a pretty good sign of a mounting, or pernicious problem.
I was never abused by my parents, but if authorities had the power then, that they have now to step in, they could. I am not saying they would, but the fear by police or social welfare agencies changes the parenting dynamic.
In short, those agencies are more likely the abusers of our right to be left alone.
I don’t know if that satisfies your curiosity, I hope it does. Thanks for the conversation.