Because the number of milliseconds a man hesitated to reply would be held against him for years, measured against some intangible, ephemeral standard that might change even while the measurement was taking place. And if the result was unsatisfactory from the woman’s standpoint, for whatever reason, there would in most cases never be a way around it.
Where were you when I was 16 and needed advice about women?
IMO women are afraid to find out what men really think about their relationship.
...I know women don't understand men. I know there are women looking at me right now, wondering "what goes on in that little brain of his? I betcha I could manipulate that brain." I betcha you could.I betcha women would like to know what men really think... the truth, the honest truth. You wanna know what men are really thinking? 'Cause I could tell you. Would you like to know? Alright, I'll tell you.
Nothing.
We're not thinking anything. We're just walking around, looking around. This is the only natural inclination of men. To just kinda check stuff out.
We work because they force us to, but other than that, this is really the only thing we wanna do. We like women, we want women. But that's pretty much as far as we've thought. That's why we're honking car horns, yelling from construction sites...these are the best ideas we've had so far.
-- Jerry Seinfeld, I'm Telling You For The Last Time.
Both your answer and the preceding thread are right. Women want to be proposed to because they want the right of refusal and in some cases for the man to come begging for their hand.
Any hesitation on the part of a man to a woman’s proposal would indeed be remembered and used as hammer for years to come.
Women, in general, don’t like to be told they’re wrong, will hold it against you forever if you show them they are wrong, want their way at all times or they will hold it against you forever, expect you to read their minds and contrary to popular belief are the ones who are reluctant to make and sometimes maintain a commitment or to try to work through problems.
Too many take on the view that their husbands are the cash cow/sperm donor and that there is always a better man out there if they are disappointed in any way with their current spouse. They are also frequently assured that they could go it alone because the ex and/or the taxpayer will fund their lifestyle and kids.
I have seen too many guys who were devoted husbands who have either lived through these nightmares or are currently dealing with it. Although some of these things have been issues for me, I have worked through them with my wife of 42 years. She is not perfect and neither am I but we have been able to work through problems and still love each other above all others. I have found out over the years that she is not necessarily the norm based on a large pool of observations.
Very well said!