I have left complete instructions for my funeral and a specific dollar amount for it: 1 day or less visitation; minimum “vault”, my flag which I am entitled to and the vet cemetary....nothing more.
For our wedding, we spent about $4K. We had a nice event for 60 at a local BandB; appitizer plates, a cake, a pianist, and an available horse carriage ride. I supplied the wine from my cellar and a few cases of beer and each guest received a .375 bottle of wine with our wedding date label on it. We specifically stated no gifts, just come and party with us. Our neighbor minister officiated.
We just had our 50th. Wedding Anniversary party. I prepared all the food the kids served it , We asked that gifts not be brought, but several people gave them anyway, Mostly gift cards to restaurants.
The whole party cost less than a thousand dollars and we had a great sit down dinner for 140 guests and family.
Catering is just too expensive these days at $25.00 a plate, and that is what they call cheap.