My only piece of advice I can give is that you cannot change her, just yourself.
Be nice and civil towards her, at all costs. However, put your energies into your hobbies and, as best you can, make your home a welcome place for yourself.
I work a lot, which I am thankful for, but the urge for companionship and a “fun partner” to try things with, dance with, travel with, read with...is never there.
She would rather go to a meal swap deal with her girlfriends vs. hanging with me.
I just feel trapped, and depressed.