[Lancey Howard]

She theorizes that, within monogamy, women’s narcissistic need to feel desired is not being met: they feel their partners are trapped and that “a choice—the lust-propelled selection of her—was no longer being made.” One of the women interviewed in In What Do Woman Want?, Sophie, reveals how she compensates to summon lust for her husband: by fantasizing about being ravaged by Yankee shortstop Derek Jeter.

Here is what the theory boils down to, as far as I can tell: women want to be raped by men who are overcome by their lust.

[Tailback]

Your summary of her theory is pretty close to my theory.

My theory is, women either want a man similar to their Father if they had a good Father/Daughter relationship and/or they want a brutus beefcake type guy who treats them like a whore. The brutus beefcake syndrome happens when a woman feels like she has been chosen above all others since brutus can pick anyone. She’s willing to accept the degrading treatment because she’s obviously better than all the other women. If a woman can’t find a brutus, she settles for someone like her Father.

Nomex fireproof suit is on, ready for the responses. BTW, been in a loving monogamous marriage for 15 years and have been in a monagamous relationship with that same person for 18 years. I’m the guy that’s almost identical to her Father that she settled for after all the college flings that treated her like dirt chose others.

Of course, I’m fantastic in the bedroom so she has no reason to stray. LOL!

Flame away ladies.

[Aevery_Freeman]

In my youth I did notice that a woman was more likely to forgive you for “pushing the advantage” - but not for missing it.