Wow, thank you for all your input. It does help me get a different perspective on what my sister and her family are all going through.
My sister did not work when the children were growing up and was a consistent (evangelical) Bible study leader etc. No one ever drank or even smoked. She cannot believe she wouldn’t have known something was wrong. However the father did idolize the son and try to live all his own childhood dreams through the son via sports etc. Boy could do no wrong but rebelled when older. The girl was so sweet and kind and smart and beautiful.
Only the two kids know for sure what happened but in the meantime a whole family is devastated.
I have been thinking that since it was in my eyes physically impossible for the boy to act this way that it was probably false memories but it looks like I could be very wrong.
Thanks again for all your time and imput.
You are most certainly welcome. I’m glad my sharing with you may be able to help in some way. I’ll keep your family in my prayers, for sure. Give your sister a giant hug, and tell her to stay strong. Mothers are not always the one to blame, and sometimes things definitely happen without us knowing about it... I don’t know any mother that is absolutely omniscient.
I don’t honestly know where some of these very young boys get these thoughts - they are so very young... Especially in the case you’re talking about where there wasn’t a big age difference.
In the case above, as well as the one I’m familiar with it was pretty easy to see that the older child was acting in more of a “ringleader” type position, and a child at the age of 7 may go along with things they would never think of, or contemplate doing on their own... I feel sorry for both of the younger children involved, and hope there is a way for the older boy to be rehabilitated.
Anyway, my best wishes to you and your family. I know the pain of estrangement all too well. {{Hugs}}