There are two critical issues you really need to address.
First, attempting to bluff with a firearm is a potential disaster. If you bring a firearm to a deadly force confrontation, you must be able to kill with it. If you can't get rid of it.
Second, you absolutely must learn the use of deadly force laws where you live. When and when not to use a firearm to defend yourself and/or property is not governed by common sense or what you have read in books or seen on TV or the movies. The use of deadly force is governed by technical laws and past legal discussions. It has nothing to do with justice or fair play.
You are doing the right thing, you just need to be prepared for the obvious worst case outcome. While you are at it look into a concealed carry license along with a course on using you selected firearm. Good Luck.
“First, attempting to bluff with a firearm is a potential disaster. If you bring a firearm to a deadly force confrontation, you must be able to kill with it. If you can’t get rid of it.”
Translation: It’s better to be found raped and strangled to death with your pantyhose than to be found explaining how you bluffed your way out of a situation.
Shotguns are not appropriate for many women. They’re cumbersome, and if you’re petite the recoil can knock you off your feet. In my opinion, the best long gun for a woman is the Ruger mini-14. It’s a powerful .223 that can hold a large-capacity clip, but it’s lightweight, easy to handle, and has almost no recoil at all. A perfect lady’s rifle for home defense.