Sorry for the cross you must bear.
Your mom needs to understand she endangered herself by getting in the fray. She out herself physically at risk.
Sometimes we have to parent the parent.
Time for boundaries to be set, understood and adhered to—for Mom when she is by your house.
Dad is just trying to understand what is going on around him.
You are all in a tough situation.
From here, I am doing what I can-—praying for you and yours.
I am really sorry for the tough stuff you’re going through with your parents, and you have a right to be very concerned.
Now...on the other hand...
If you could only have seen what you wrote through the cinema screen on MY eye lids, you’d be laughing your a$$ off at the comedy of the non-emotional elements of the entire story.
That’s definitely a table story with the kids lol!
I had a dog much like yours and I’ve chased him down the road on more than one occasion as he slipped on by, and hot footed it after a canine trespasser. All he really wanted to do was nip the pooch on the shoulder as discipline. Wait a minute and he’d come prancing back, proudly displaying his new found friend.
The dog across the street however, (a different dog) was a wolf/akita combo who was actually my dog’s best friend. My dog would actually sit there and CALL that wolf to come over and play!
I tell you that because those are super smart dogs and you might actually be able to work with that dog since the neighbor is so lax..and diffuse the situation between the dogs.
It doesn’t do much for mom’s snarly temper, but more often than not, dogs are more agreeable than people are anyway!
You didn’t want advice, but you got it anyway lol!
Best of luck to you with both situations, and I’m very glad nobody got hurt in the scuffle.