I agree. I suffered from a symptom-based depression after the death of a loved one. I knew something wasn’t right, but that I wasn’t sick.
I decided not to go through my doctor, but got a referral from a friend to see a therapist. We discussed the possibility of medication, but once I got through the first messy block of grieving, I improved and there was a better direction for me than medication.
I think the big problem is that medication isn’t always prescribed in concert with therapy and sometimes without any type of quality diagnosis with a psychologist or psychiatrist.
I went to my doctor first to rule out anything physical. He then sent me to a great psychiatrist (I was lucky, some are not so good). It was a long road back but as long as I was on medication, he saw me once a month. That went on for 3 years....back in the 70's when you never heard of depression...
My husband of 33 years passed on 20 years ago and I understand how grief can take its toll, but it does pass, not quickly but softens after a while. I think grief is something we have to go through there is no short cuts and for me medication for that was not the answer. You just take it one day at a time... We sound like 2 lucky people that found the right road for ourselves...:O)