Posted on 01/25/2012 11:48:17 AM PST by Morgana
January 25, 2012 (LiveAction.org) - Recently I’ve been discussing the correlation between the problem of emancipating slaves in the American South, and the problem of ending abortion in our country. While most pro-lifers agree abortion must be ended as soon as possible, it doesn’t change the fact that an extra one million babies per year, many born to mothers with limited resources or parenting skills, will put a great strain on federal assistance and social welfare programs.
The first part of the solution to this problem is far-reaching and, admittedly, far-fetched. It involves changing the way young people view personal responsibility, morality, and sex, which involves changing the hearts and minds of adults so that they raise their children with better instruction and more traditional values.
While it’s essential that we continue to lead by example and advocate for higher sexual standards, it’s also important that we realize unwanted pregnancies are still going to happen, and lots of them.
According to the U.S. Census, single parenthood increased from 3 million families in 1970 to nearly 14 million in 2010. That’s almost a 100% increase per decade. An unsurprising 84% of single parents are mothers. The advent of the sexual revolution in the 1960s led to a decline in the number of “nuclear” families and a growing dependence on the state to act as father and provider for children without one. Today, a staggering 70% of black children are born out of wedlock.
When women mistook sexual libertinism for independence, they shrugged off the horrible yoke of having a husband who provided for them in favor of a different burden: that of parenting alone. I was raised by a single mother. She did the best she could, and I love her for it and applaud her courage and fortitude. However, my brother and I would have been better off with a present father.
Don’t take my word for it. Ask Mark Mather, PhD.
The effects of growing up in single-parent households have been shown to go beyond economics, increasing the risk of children dropping out of school, disconnecting from the labor force, and becoming teen parents. Although many children growing up in single-parent families succeed, others will face significant challenges in making the transition to adulthood.
The Telegraph also reported on a study of 14,000 children born in Britain between 2000 and 2002:
Some 12 per cent of children brought up by one parent displayed serious behavioural problems by the age of seven, it was disclosed, compared with just six per cent of youngsters raised by both natural parents.
Several years ago, controversial writer Ann Coulter made headlines when she quoted these statistics, although they had already been published in a left-leaning magazine:
A study cited in the Village Voice produced similar numbers. It found that children brought up in single-mother homes ‘are five times more likely to commit suicide, nine times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape (for the boys), 20 times more likely to end up in prison, and 32 times more likely to run away from home.
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She also added the following shocking information:
By 1996, 70 percent of inmates in state juvenile detention centers serving long-term sentences were raised by single mothers. Seventy-two percent of juvenile murderers and 60 percent of rapists come from single-mother homes. Seventy percent of teenage births, dropouts, suicides, runaways, juvenile delinquents, and child murderers involve children raised by single mothers.
As a pro-lifer, I firmly believe that we must respect the sanctity of life for unborn humans. I also know that any chance at life is better than none. I am glad my mother, who found herself pregnant with twins as an already-single mother of two, decided to keep my brothers and raise them. Fortunately, despite making a few less-than-stellar decisions, she was an excellent mom with a head on her shoulders who took good care of us. She also had a support system of family and friends to rely on.
Not every pregnant woman has these advantages, and that is why, by the time that beautiful day arrives when abortion is ended, we must have already begun to educate the people of our country — especially the young people — about the priceless gift of adoption.
My mother was adopted, my grandfather was adopted, and my best friend was adopted. I have always thought there was something indescribably beautiful about the act of taking a stranger into your home and making him part of your family. It is proof of the generosity and love inherent in the human soul.
Adoption is a little understood process. Unfortunately, most potential adoptive parents dismiss it as too expensive or time-consuming, while most women experiencing unplanned pregnancies view it as a difficult, mysterious, agonizing prospect.
We need to educate couples about adoption. We need them to know it is easier and less expensive to adopt than most people think.
Most of all, we need to begin to elevate adoption as a joyous and rewarding process for the pregnant mother. She is giving her child not only the gift of life, but the gift of a better life than the one she can probably provide.
Soon I’ll tell you a little bit more about adoption, and why it’s our best hope for ensuring that as many children as possible are raised by loving, capable parents who can give them the opportunities they deserve.
The author state “We need to educate couples about adoption.”
Adoption?
How about first educating them on sex after marriage? That would cut at least 90% of this crap out. Maybe more?
FReepers?
I adopted 2 children - my only children...
A boy and a girl...
I think everyone with a 2 parent home and resources can at least adopt 1 child....
In the meantime, people need to learn to be accountable...if they can’t maintain a standard of living - then no children - and make sure they do not engage in the act that produces them...
I’m sure these kids born to idiotic people - would rather not have been born under those circumstances - but since they were - adopt!
I cannot not imagine where and what would have happened to my little boy...he has a rare brain disorder brought on by drug abuse by his birth mom...no his fault - and he shows me how determined he is everyday by charging ahead...I’m the one blessed by God - I’m am so proud to be his dad!!!
So this article points to one thing - responsibility. Those people who bring babies into this world without logistics - don’t need to be having babies - but it happens - and we the people who have resources and common sense need to adopt and break the cycle...educate those kids to do what is right...of course the backlash is that those irresponsible will just keep popping them out!!! Which I’ve seen.....
Adoption? There are no orphanages anymore with infants here in America. We either kill the babies or the wonderful mother who couldn't keep her damn legs together "Keeps" the baby. Kill the baby or keep the baby. We go to Russian, Columbia, China, or wherever, and pay tens of thousands of dollars to foreign governments to get children.
And even if they go for the "adoption" option, they're granted OPEN adoptions in most cases and, therefore, get to interfere with the child's raising for many, many years.
Ergo, this is where the liberals got us by the scrotum: adoptions is a hassle, abortion gets "rid of" the problem, and keeping the baby allows the rutting woman access to Obambi's money to help raise the child. And the more babies the rutter has, the more money that Obambi can give her.
Where the Negro illegitimacy rate was 7% during WWII, it is now 70%. The government has pretty well destroyed what's left of the Negro family, which will still vote for the illegal alien who lives in our White House.
I believe that the fact that abortion is 'out there' frees men from taking responsibility. Even if his girlfriend chooses to have the baby, a father can justify advoiding responsibility because he will tell himself, "I wanted her to have an abortion, she chose not to," or whatever lets him sleep at night.
But, in a world without abortion, I believe that couples would be much more careful about birth control, and more men would take responsibility. Therefore, I believe that there would be fewer unwanted babies, not more. After all, look how many unplanned pregnancies occur in this country where birth control if freely available, and look how many fatherless children are born in a country where abortion is legal!
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Some very excellent comments on the thread. "Open" adoptions are terrible IMHO. I also am for "Separation of Adoption (and fostering) and State". It should all be private or if gov has to get involved, very, very local - munipcal or county. LOCALLY accountable. And, speaking of accountablity, personal responsiblity is needed and in many cases will not be even thought of without ACCOUNTABILITY. Eliminate AFDC and more females would start thinking twice about generating children, especially with more and more restrictions on abortion, and hopefully completely illegal sooner rather than later.
Don’t like women much, do ya?
There are no unwanted children. My friend works at an agency where disabled babies are adopted. I am on an email list for people adopting HIV+ kids from all over the world. Just because their birth parents don’t want them doesn’t mean they are not wanted.
Once upon a time, that's what Joe Stud was expected to do, and frequently did.
And I exist because a certain Joe Stud, about 80 years ago, "did the right thing".
Sadly it is scary to adopt in the us when judges still rip children from their only parents 4 years later when the guy who once had an orgasm in the birth mother is found.
What the freak is that supposed to mean? Other than your usual pee on the thread to irritated people, that is.
Hey lil j, whas up?
I guess a few of his descriptive words for women must have generated that response.
Good hearing from ya, always enjoy your choice of openings and descriptive wordings.
gotta go, lookin’ forward to some pleasant conversations with ya later.
The “scary” thing is that people presumptively denigrate biological fatherhood, as what you just wrote did.
I believe that the fact that abortion is 'out there' frees men from taking responsibility.
Abortion is the act of a woman killing a couple's child. That is a crime against men. It doesn't "free" men, it takes the children of men from them by deadly force.
Even if his girlfriend chooses to have the baby, a father can justify avoiding responsibility because he will tell himself, "I wanted her to have an abortion, she chose not to," or whatever lets him sleep at night.
Look at your own language. The sole sphere of existence that you align with fatherhood is responsibility. You do not mention his rights at all. Again, a bitterly cold view of fatherhood.
Exactly. There have been more than several articles on FR over the years of adopted children growing up with the adoptive parents - and sometimes siblings - only to be ripped away from the ONLY family they’ve ever known, and placed back with a birth mother who is usually a total misfit.
So horrible that I cannot read such articles in detail, I cry too much. My heart just breaks for those children. As well as the adoptive parents.
...............psychopath..................
I’ve read cases on FR of men who did NOT want their child aborted but the woman did anyway, and cases of men practically dragging the woman they impregnated into the abortuary even against her will.
Both men and women need to be responsible for their offspring and they can start by having sex within marriage. That’s a huge first step.
The reality is that men are pressuring their girls to have an abortion they don't want. I know of one young teenager who was pressured by her older boyfriend into doing just that. Of course she bears some responsibility, but if the guy would have wanted to get married, she would have kept the baby. You can talk about what happens in theory, but the reality is that most girls are pressured by their boyfriends into an abortion that they don't want, usually by threatening to break up. That is what is happening. Go to an abortion clinic and see for yourself.
There are good men who want to claim their child and the mother wants to have the baby. For them, abortion is not an option. Taking away abortion wouldn't affect them.
There are also good men who want their baby, but the mother wants to abort. Taking away abortion would actually help these men keep their baby.
There are also bad men who do not want to take responsibility and want to kill their child. Take abortion out of the picture and the mother is not pressured to abort, because it does not exist.
Finally, there are couples where both the man and the woman don't want the baby. This is the trouble spot, or would be if there weren't so many couples wanting to adopt. So, removing abortion is a good thing in this case, too.
I think that making abortion illegal actually increases the rights of men, as well as the responsibilities.
Not at all sure of what you mean . . . the woman who kills her baby or the woman who is murdered by her "mother" who doesn't want her. Please explain.
I don’t really think you would understand even if explained. nite
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