It’s kind of unnatural. I remember when I met my wife she had a friend, a pretty gal who was in her late 20’s and was a virgin. She had dated one particular guy for several weeks when one night he was kissing her and tried to slip her a tongue. She thought the concept revolting and ended the relationship. I just can’t imagine getting to the age of 40 as a virgin.
When my middle-aged divorced women friends ask me about middle-aged guys they are dating that have never been married, I tell them that there is a reason they have never been married and to stop wasting their time with those guys.
None of those women ever married to one of those kind of guys.
A tongue vs. his tongue? Maybe that's the problem. Maybe it was some kind of crazy engorged Gene Simmons tongue purchased at a joke shop. :O)
YUK!!! I HATED so-called French kissing. I went steady with a boy at 16 who French kissed, and I was stupid enough to allow it. (No excuse; but I was green as a gourd and thought it was just how you kissed.)
It turned out to be degrading to both of us and we ended up breaking up disgusted with each other. I think a lot of people are sickend by it and it becomes not a long term thing that people do into marriage after the excitement wears off. In fact, I’m not really sure than I didn’t contract mononeucleosis from French kissing. It is just a horrid memory to me.