True—making a man feel deeply appreciated is a powerful aphrodisiac and can make a very plain woman the subject of a good man’s love. But looking as though you care how attractive you are, staying in shape, making an effort, corresponding to traditional female ideas of beauty, and appearing happy and healthy will give a woman a bigger pool of good men to choose from. It’s not realistic to expect a man to have ESP and see past the ratty hair and rolls of fat an unfamiliar woman is displaying and recognize the fine character beneath. At least look like you’re in the market, for goodness’ sake.
“see past the ratty hair and rolls of fat an unfamiliar woman”
Exactly, a woman should try.
Under normal circumstances, we can keep our hair clean and combed and our faces cheerful and wear feminine clothing etc., try to back away from the table and take walks, keep ourselves reasonably healthy.
No need to look like we gave up! We need to make the most of what we have.