Posted on 01/07/2010 12:02:05 PM PST by Steelfish
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It's interesting to juxtapose the public/media reaction to Sheen's alleged menacing (with a knife) of his wife, and Tiger Wood's alleged infidelity. I'm not defending Woods - in any way - but, I think when you allegedly hold a knife to your wife's throat and tell her your going to kill her, it's just a little worse than philandering. And yet, there are NO CALLS from women's groups to have Sheen's show pulled from the network lineup. Why is that, especially in light of Sheen's previous allegations (settled out of court) of domestic violence.
I have become convinced that the FOX News website is managed by a team of 15 year-old boys. Some of the crap that they have on that site is embarrassing. If they want to be taken seriously as an earnest and important news-gathering organization, they could start by re-engineering their website so it doesn't look like it was designed by Larry Flynt.
She had eyes....where....I didn’t see any...
THANK YOU!!!!
Some dolts have no class or compassion. She made a poor choice of a boyfriend. Do girls deserve to be murdered for that?
Yes, it’s very sad. A lot of what are now “top models” actually got into the business that way, and I’m sure many young and silly girls who have been given a pretty face and a good body hope they’ll do a little bit of nude modeling and then go on to greater success elsehwere.
But they’re not traveling with good company, and these guys regard them as disposable.
Miss Paula will never learn. She is now beyond learning.
My wife keeps the checkbook....That could be an issue...
Thanks Bawb. Yer a real stand-up guy yerself.
I’ve been reading up on topics like this the past year. Generally - the view I have encountered is that she was with him in the first place because she did learn - people teach these women early in life, often in childhood, that, as young children, they aren’t very valuable as humans and that even ‘good’ and ‘important’ people that she cares about (mom, dad, other guardians etc.) who love her are ‘made’ to treat her abusively because she is stupid, does the wrong thing, asks the wrong questions, complains about mistreatment when ‘no one is hurting you’ etc.
And as an adult, abusers she meets are able to detect this kind of emotional scar tissue very quickly - often within the first meeting with their eventual victim - like sharks sense blood in the water. Initially the relationship is good and the woman hopes that the abusive past is behind her and she plans on being ‘good enough’ not to be treated abusively - and then he steadily begins to reveal his true nature. With so little self esteem and the view that even her ‘loving family’ hurt her when she disappointed them - she just tries harder and harder to be ‘good enough’ and doesn’t imagine there is a safe place in the world for her.
So she did learn the wrong information from the start and it takes a total change in very basic assumptions of world view and life for this kind of woman to really learn the truth and walk/run away.
I helped a woman escape a violent husband about a year ago - I have to say it was like this situation in that I jsut couldn’t figure out what the attraction was - why go back to him? He was unspeakably abusive and yet should would reminisce about the few golden moments in the past when he was good to her. Her belief system was so strong she really couldn’t hear what I or others were saying.
It seems that women who do escape either make a commitment to long term therapy or gradually with their own determination and support from others who’ve ‘been there’...they claw their way out. But, without a change in world view and restoring of self esteem - that sort of woman goes on to the next abuser. So very sad.
Note that he said “seldom”.
I’m maintaining caution.
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I’d guess she was into the bad boy thing. I’ll never understand why some women are.
Then again, maybe calling it what is will serve as a lesson help prevent other 'sweet looking daughters' from turning down the skank (porn) path.
Compassion shouldn't negate the consequences of bad decisions. That's not a healthy world this poor girl chose to dwell in. Let's hope others can learn something and avoid this tragic, avoidable fate.
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Sladewski, 26, would text message her ex-boyfriend that she was afraid of Klym.
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Too bad the lady got assaulted and murdered.
Now the ex-boyfriend won’t have to waste time lending his ear to
an old girlfriend that couldn’t figure out that a broken nose is
a clue: GET THE H-LL OUT OF THERE!!! And never look back.
It's sad, isn't it? A lot of times, beautiful girls are truly unaware of how outwardly attractive they are. More often than not, gal you see as a 10 may very well look at herself in the mirror and judge herself a dubious 7.
A person has to like him/herself down deep, truly, in order to benefit in a non-material way from the outward beauty they have. And a big part of that ability to like oneself is how one was treated in early years. Constant negative response or abuse of a child predisposes that kid to believe that he/she is not likeable. I know a gal who has been "rid hard and put away wet" -- a drug abuser, I suspect a former prostitute, a teen-ager mentality in a middle-aged woman's body, a chronic partier, a rough gal to say the least ... yet I will vouch anywhere that she is in her heart one of the sweetest, sunniest, kindest, most tender-hearted people God has created, and in her youth was a VERY pretty, pretty thing -- in fact, with a little dental work and time in the gym, she could be quite unusually attractive again.
But here's the deal -- I know she's as sweet as pie, (fortunately) her boyfriend knows she's sweet as pie ... and while she has had many people tell her that she's a sweetheart ... down deep in her heart she is skeptical and so takes on all the accouterments of how she views herself.
Jesus, it is said, hung around sinners; if so, women like this little gal must have been among them.
May God bless and guide the lost souls who end up posing in the pages of magazines like Playboy.
No, but they often wind up that way or raped and/or beaten up. Choices have consequences. If you fail (or don’t see) the warning sights then it may go badly for you.
Bingo. I think you’re right on target. It’s a very sad thing.
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I’d guess she was into the bad boy thing.
I’ll never understand why some women are.
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It might be a genetic thing for some ladies.
A decade or so ago I read an article about “female choice” (as in
choices of mates) in a pack of baboons. The article was written by
two female researchers and published in “American Scientist” magazine.
The two lady scientists were baffled because there was one male baboon
that never passed up a chance to bit, kick and otherwise abuse females
of the pack.
And the lady baboons mated with him enthusiatically and often.
When I read the article, I said “the authors must never have attended
public high school...because they seem to not have a clue about the
bad boy advantage in attracting females!”.
just ask her if you have any money.....no, wait a minute. That might not work....I’ll have to get back to you.
Simple: to this sort of girl - and I would dare say they are the majority, at least until their 30s - "bad boys" provide two things:
1) Excitement. Nice guys are typically viewed as good "friend" material and nothing more. Bad boys are full of drama and excitement, until your charred corpse winds up in a dumpster.
2) A project. Girls that are attracted to this kind of guy KNOWS the guy is messed up, and they think they can "fix" him.
I've developed this theory as a result of my youth spent as a "nice guy" who seldom made it past friend status; as the extremely lucky husband of a wonderful, beautiful woman who used to be into the bad-boy thing and grew out of it; and the father of two teenage girls who witnesses the attraction first-hand and is constantly trying to teach them the perils of bad boys.
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