Posted on 04/03/2008 6:44:24 PM PDT by Terriergal
Prayers up
Prayers up for your friend. Can her church help out or get her in touch with people who can help?
Prayers for your friend. If she is divorced, how is her ex getting into her bank account?
Prayers sent up for Brenda.
Prayers for Brenda and her children.
Prayer sent.
A prayer done for her. Does she need job training to get a better job? Every state has a job training program called Workforce Investment Act that helps people, especially Disadvantaged people, get career training- possibly up to 2 yrs. The rules vary state by state so check it out to see if she can get help that way. Be sure to mention the divorce, the income level and the number of children.
“If she is divorced, how is her ex getting into her bank account?”
My first thought too.
I am praying for her.
May God continue to shine his love and light on this very special woman.
Amen!
Prayers up.
Your friend should really check out Dave Ramsey’s “Total Money Makeover.” It contains a lot of good information and a rock solid financial strategy to clean up these messes. It will truly bring peace to her financial situation.
this theft was when she was still with him. He would take checks from the checkbooks that were still in the box. In the course of a day she wouldn’t notice they were missing when she was writing checks for groceries etc.
But of course they showed up on the statements and she would of course notice a missing number when balancing her checkbook. She asked him about them and he just shrugged and said he didn’t know, maybe there was a misprint... made up some story. But of course, if there was a misprint, these checks would never have come through on the statement.
Their third child, a girl, when she was just old enough to understand, remembers hearing him threaten mom’s life, while pinning her down with a broomhandle across her throat. She told their counselor this too.
When she saw his anger escalating against the kids too, she finally realized his excursion into teen challenge (which he was required to do because he had been arrested for shoplifting and public drunkenness) did not work, and made plans to divorce. The older kids know he has driven them around while having been drinking.
The courts of course make them visit him every other weekend, and the older kid found beer cans in his closet (empty) and said “why are you still drinking dad?” Dad said “I never promised I wouldn’t drink. I just said I wouldn’t drink when you guys are here.”
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thanks, I’ll check it out.
I’ve been pushing for her to check into something like that. Still, with five kids, it will be hard to make that much money that would cover daycare. She isn’t ‘doctor’ material by any means, but a lovely lady IMO with a great heart and attitude.
She is in a new town and can’t find a church that isn’t caught up in some nonsense that we don’t believe is right. She has been going to an E Free church but really no one seems very friendly there. In addition, because she initiated the divorce, some churches feel they cannot help. Especially because her ex voiced the words “I don’t want a divorce.” (Yeah but he also didn’t want a marriage!). He knows how to play people against her.
btw - new town — the reason she was able to move is that she finally got out of a 3 BR apartment in the metro area into a different county’s public housing and they got her into a 4 (or was it 5?) bedroom house. That was a Godsend. She needed to get out of that cramped apartment with all those kids and with how expensive the metro area is. Of course, she is stil in an expensive outlying suburb/county... but it’s a step up.
What about her church? This is one of their own suffering. Take up a collection or organize a group of volunteers to help with the kids. Assistance starts with friends, neighbors and family, not the county or state.
Prayers for Brenda.
Yeah... she doesn’t really have one right now. She just moved to the town and the one that actually teaches what we believe is right (or closest to it) isn’t really all that helpful.
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