>I have to say that even though many raise their kids properly, the kid will still go out and do something you don't approve of.
My son just got his ears pierced without my permission. He is a teen and I told him no when he asked but he did it anyway. <
Yes they will but there should be consequences that are memorable. For example when they do something like that you say "I see that you feel that you are old enough to make adult decisions. Well adults have freedom to make their own decisions but they also have responsibilites too.
Therefore, since you are an adult, I will no longer provide you with transportation, toothpaste, free room and board, car insurance and clothing. Adults provide those for themselves. And since you are an adult if those ears get infected and need medical treatment you will be paying for it. So you better get yourself a good job.
My oldest daughter did not get her driver's license until she was 18 because she hadn't proved to me she was responsible. And we never provided them with a car and they had to pay for their own insurance.
If kids are going out and doing these type of things consistently then they apparantly have no fear of any consequences.
Don't get me started on auto insurance. My son has his permit but I am putting off getting the license as it would cost $170 per month just to add him. No way--not until he has a job and pays for it himself. Not to mention that he will not use my car at all.
The thought of my 2000 Le Sabre getting totaled is enough to keep the kids locked up until they are 21. I can't afford getting my car totaled.