You should see half the 4ssh0l3s they have in military medicine now. Long term pain is near automatically considered "psychosomatic"......as if you just imagined getting shot or blown up. Then they load up the patients with anti-depressants, and everything is happy.
I avoided the wizards like the plague. Even the "safe" ones that do marriage counseling are BS. My ex and I went to an on base counselor to discuss ways to deal with my return from my second combat deployment (I had gotten wounded and unbeknownst to me she was screwing around).
Instead of discussing things like adjusting routines and household responsibilities, he only wanted to talk about how much I drank (hardly at all, drink or two maybe once a month), and were we sure, like really really sure I didn't drink. And if I wasn't drinking, was it possible I was drinking? Did I hit her? Was she really sure I didn't hit her? Not even when I was really angry? What about by accident? Could I please leave the room? Was she really sure I didn't drink or hit her? From the waiting area I could hear her cussing him out that I didn't drink or hit her.
The one thing we agreed on, neither of felt comfortable talking to the marriage or family counselors and that they were quacks.
F###ers all.
Thanks for your service.
It seems your “ex” and you had much in common with your disdain for shrinks.
It also seems that you’ve landed on your feet. That’s a strong start to an eventually happy life.
I sincerely hope you find it.
Trust in God is still, and will always be the key.
You’re in my prayers.