The Are of Pre-Grieving So Mother's Day Isn't Ruined

A Holy Experience ^ | May 3, 2016 | September Vaudrey

[cdga5for4]

You know, I’m feeling it this year, as a new mama to 7, like none other, the complex range of emotions for Mother’s Day.

For a surprising number of us, it’s a tender day—a reminder of the mother we lost or the mother who couldn’t be or the mom we needed when we were kids.

Or it’s an awkward day spent wondering if a partner will help our kids celebrate us.

Or it’s a day of aching for the unfulfilled role of mother—a role we do not yet hold or may never hold.

And for a few, Mother’s Day ushers in deep sorrow for the child we lost—the child we no longer can touch or see or raise.

September Vaudrey is such a mother. She lost her middle child, Katie, age 19, several years back and has logged seven complex Mother’s Days since. How do we engage this holiday in a way that honors those we love—and yet gives a nod to their loss, or to ours? It’s a grace to welcome September to the farm’s front porch today…

[cdga5for4]

This is a really interesting and moving article. The author, September Vaudrey, has written an amazing book, Colors of Goodbye.

[Talisker]

God makes mothers, and infuses women with the capacity of a mother’s heart. But God also gives free will. And there are mothers, made by God, who reject and scorn motherhood, and revile their mother’s heart as weakness and slavery, and choose, of their own free will, to attack men, manhood and their own children as their oppressors.

I believe the deepest purpose of the feminist movement has been to create such madness in women, to redefine it as sanity itself, and to celebrate and support it. I didn’t used to feel that way, but I’ve seen it too much in our world to deny its existence anymore.

Mother’s Day is therefore a day to pray that such evil be destroyed, and that women be freed to cherish their innate motherhood without oppression and scorn by feminist monsters, who seek to kill their very souls in exchange for votes and socialist slavery.

[CrazyIvan]

“This is a really interesting and moving article. The author, September Vaudrey, has written an amazing book, Colors of Goodbye.”

I have not read this book but is highly regarded by a support group I belong to.