Or it could be that the young woman in question just hasn’t met a kind, loving, child-loving, marriage-minded young man yet, and while she’s waiting for him, she decides not to be totally lonely, so she gets a dog. It’s better than sleeping around or having kids out of wedlock.
You have made a very good point. Imagine having a child and then discovering that your husband is a lying, thieving, conniving, philandering.... Imagine putting said child through the unpleasantness of a divorce. People make errors in judgment. I even knew a woman whose first marriage failed after she had two little boys. She became enamored of an ostensibly good, family-type man only to discover later that he had molested her boys when he purported to share childcare responsibility. There are defective men who manifest jealousy and therefore mistreat children and animals. I’ve seen enough ugliness in my life that I’m reluctant to make judgments about another’s status with respect to children.
Bingo. I tire of all this blame the woman.
I hear here also bemoaning how OLD women are having children. Well, some of us are moral and choosy, and once one reaches 30, it’s really hard to find a mate as the pool shrank so much with many of them already married. So, sometimes we are really old by the time we finally meet someone. Then we keep it closed until married. Then wait a bit. Before long I am 38 by the time my son comes along.
Not everyone is “selfish” who has a kid late.