[KittenClaws]

I said NO! The man is responsible for the decision and bears the weight of it, be it right or wrong. The correct answer is that they turn left. I further clarified that the man that firmly believes he should turn left but turns right to please his wife has done her a terrible disservice. The reasons are legion and for another post.

I concur. I can only think of one time during my 26 year marriage that my own rather indulgent husband made a decision contrary to how I "felt". It was an emotional and weighty issue with consequences that could last for years.

He actually stood in front of me and said "I am the head of this household, I am telling you how this is going to be taken care of".

Though heartbroken, I conceded. I didn't tell him until years later how comforted I was to have that burden on his shoulders rather than mine. When a wife submits biblical to her husband,it is an awesome experience.

BTW. He was right, I knew he was. I just lacked the emotional strength to do what was right.

[cuban leaf]

I confess that when I took my stand in that class I had just finished a seminar called “The Role of the Man in the Family”. It had a sister course called “The role of the woman in the family”.

One of the teacher’s anecdotal stories: Gentlemen, if your wife is taking the kids somewhere and the check oil light comes on and she burns up the engine, who is responsible? You are. Is it fair? Fairness does not apply. Is it good for the woman? You bet. Is it good for the man? Not relevant. It simply is your responsibility. It frees the woman to take care of what is her responsibility.

And yes, my current wife (first one lasted 20 years and this one is going on 15 with no end in sight) is very much the submissive wife (Yes, she read that book) and she LOVES that she can defer stuff to me - even though I have been wrong on a couple of things.