I know that for a fact.
I also know for a fact that some people deal with and manage thieir "pebbles" better than others.
I also know for a fact that some people who never learn to deal with them or get rid of them tend to carry around a lot more of them than others.
I also know for a fact that neither I, nor anybody else can really say how many more any person can deal with on any given day.
Which is why I suggest that maliciously dropping a pebble into another person's "pitcher," just to see how they react is never the right thing to do. I'm not talking about a drill sergeant who raises the stress level for the benefit of his trainees, or a demanding professor that puts an ill prepared student on the spot, or an employer that has to make a hard choice and lay somebody off...those all increase a person's stress and may feel like a bomb going off in the person's life at the time, but there is no malicious intent. I'm talking about simple unbridled meanness for the sake of hurting or humiliating another person. When you get right down to it, there's a touch of sadism involved there that's not much different than ripping the wings off a butterfly.
If I get into an argument with someone, let’s say because I am having a bad day, this person does something stupid in front of me, I call them out for it, tell them what for and then that person goes home and kills themselves, am I somehow responsible for their action?
Am I morally culpable for their killing of themselves?
I’m sorry, Joe, but this world is a hard place. People are not always nice. In fact sometimes they are evil. Other times, they simply refuse to take responsibility for what they decide to do, and others refuse to assign responsibilty to those whom have done.
If we start treading down the road that we are responsible for the actions others take based upon how we interacted with that person, or based upon how others interacted with that person, then we simply go further down the road of our own insanity, which is exactly what I expect that man will do.