If you are not in control, then you can think that you are not responsible. This avoidance of responsibility is what drives the desire for submission. Having to be responsible can be a scarey thing.
On another tack: The thing which feminists like to rage against, the “patriarchy”, may be the system which allowed modern technological civilization to form.
At its core, patriarchy is a system which motivates men to spend our lives building a civilization to pass along to our children. What motivates men to spend their lives working at tedious, strenuous, or hazardous occupations, to build themselves up to have a career, position and status? We do it in order to have a chance to achieve the love and admiration of a good woman, and to acquire children who we can be sure are ours, who we can take pride in providing for.
What happens when men are deprived of this motivating system? Just take a look at any “inner-city” neighborhood. The men there have no purpose. They do not strive, nor do they build nor create. They just play games and fight among themselves. This is the future the feminists will achieve for all of us if they succeed: a barbarism where civilization is a forgotten myth of the past.
At some point, take a look at the movie "Fight Club". This is a view of what happens when men get so alienated from the society that they lose interest in holding it up. The desire then becomes to just let it crash and burn, and dance wildly around the flames.
You are exactly right when you say this:
At its core, patriarchy is a system which motivates men to spend our lives building a civilization to pass along to our children. What motivates men to spend their lives working at tedious, strenuous, or hazardous occupations, to build themselves up to have a career, position and status? We do it in order to have a chance to achieve the love and admiration of a good woman, and to acquire children who we can be sure are ours, who we can take pride in providing for.
I am a woman who sees this and knows this. Surprisingly few women understand this or even try to understand male psychology.I guess eye rolling is much easier for them.
Fascinating. :)
In my opinion, emblematic of this is the (usually) white male who is sitting in the passanger seat of the family car with the wife driving and the kids in the back.
Seeing this really, really bothers me, largely for the reasons you cite.