If someone held a grand-scale public memorial for a dead family member, but didn’t invite you, would you be upset? I sure as heck would.
You are right - I understand their being upset, and I would be too.
Let me clarify: My point was to the notion that we tend to lose our perspective as a nation when we focus on the families. That does not mean that co opting their loss for another’s agenda is acceptable. It clearly is not.
On 9-11, America’s economic power and freedom and military were attacked symbolically. The particular people who were attacked were not the point of the attack. All of us who believe in, support and benefit from our economy, our freedom and our military were victims.
I think that perspective gets lost somehow in a way that the attack on Pearl Harbor does not.