We fail to forgive to our own detriment.
I am afraid for her soul. John deserves nothing, but she hurt herself most of all.
I remember a story about how a woman died early in GWB's term and wanted her obituary to say how much she hated Bush. She called him a "whistle ass" whatever that is. I thought the same thing, how if you are dying, hatred and unforgiveness is the LAST thing that should be on your mind.
Tony Randall had the same problem. He actually said that he hoped that Bush and Cheney wouldn't be allowed to come to his funeral, because he hated them.