It is possible to pray and then to hear what you want to hear in ‘response’. It’s a form of self-deception.
You are right. We are all guilty of that. I know I am.
Exactly, If she set sail as a missionary to spread the Word, and they prayed about it and God gave the go ahead, that would be different because He would protect her no matter what she faced. My problem is it was a frivolous venture that had nothing to do with God.