I...can’t buy this.
If your marriage is ‘going South’, it seems to me that you have some clue, long before you receive an ‘email shot’.
“I...can’t buy this.
If your marriage is ‘going South’, it seems to me that you have some clue, long before you receive an ‘email shot’.
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You obviously haven’t been married to some real con-artists.
When I was introduced to a woman for some reason alarm bells LITERALLY went off in my head.
I’m not over imaginative or even relatively imaginative, so I totally discounted those bells.
Didn’t see my divorce coming at all.
First indication there was a problem? The night my soon-to-be-ex didn’t come home. The next day, I was asked to go the MP shack to pick up some paperwork.
Yep. The divorce paperwork.
And wouldn’t you know it, he was really smooth. Everyone thought I was the cause of the divorce...like I was the one who filed.
Boy were they in shock when just 10 freaking days after the divorce was granted they got married.
By then, only one set of friends would talk to us and that was because he told them he’d be the Best Man in their wedding. I recalled telling them when I saw them that they were being played for fools.
Sure enough, he never showed up in Colorado for the wedding. This bride was my best friend at the time.
Our friendship did survive; 42 years later and we’re still very close friends. She was so devastated when my ex offered to her fiancé to be their Best Man because she knew it meant I wouldn’t be there.
He played everyone for fools.
The interesting tidbit...? My ex cheated on the lady he married with the babysitter.
The first feeling was ‘yea!’ and then the second was pure misery for her in my heart because even though she’d cheated with him during our marriage, I didn’t want anyone to experience the shock I endured.
And she didn’t know about it till all hell broke loose, either.....
Like I said, he was real smooth.
I have known many over the years that said it was a complete surprise to them. I find it hard to believe but have been told that many times.
We had a couple that were friends of ours, married about 10 years. Very affectionate when we were around them and she always seemed really happy. One day he called to see if we knew where she was, she packed and left while he was at work.
My best friend in high school...I stayed at her house quite a lot and her parents seemed happy. Her mother had an older daughter that lived in California and she didn’t get to see her much. My friend’s dad arranged a trip to CA for her to see her daughter, even included Disneyland tickets. When she got home divorce papers were in the mail box.
Have known other seemingly happy couples that didn’t make it and one partner seemed unaware.
It happens
She might be so self absorbed in her own life that she didn’t know he wanted to end it. Happens all the time
....”If your marriage is ‘going South’, it seems to me that you have some clue, long before you receive an ‘email shot’”.....
Generally speaking marriages don’t ‘break-up’....there’s a long line of unresolved issues leading up to one or the others thresh hold of tolerance is reached or a specific line is breached.
Mine simply said, “I’m not happy.” Twice. Then the boom got lowered.
Note to self: Don’t encourage your wife to lose 65 lbs.
Some people mix up losing a bunch of weight to delusions of their being millions of people who simply think you are irresistible and want to marry you and give you their money.
She got everything in exchange for not selling the house until the youngest moved out and not barring access to them.
Best business deal I ever made. Ever.
Took three years and a year on someone else’s couch but now my career is in overdrive with a girlfriend 9 years younger than me and who is one of the nicest people I’ve ever met.
She’s lying to her kids about where she goes at night and the house is falling apart.
Part of me feels sorry for her. We do stupid things.
obviously she knew they had problems
They were in marital counseling working on it.
that is the key here.