The other important thing I got from college was ... time. Time to consider what I really wanted to do in life before I got bogged down in it and woke up at 35 wondering what happened?!
Once you enter the workforce and especially if you start a family.. time can go back “very” quickly... Plus, the opportunities to meet a high-quality spouse in college alone might be worth it. I look back on all the girls from high school .. I “thought” were so amazing at the time and laugh. Even an average girl in college was far and away a better potential wife than any of the girls from high school. In hindsite.. it made everything that I had gone through in highschool seem silly. I was like.. wth was I thinking? lol
You know all those young women on magazine covers, in pageants, ect... and you wonder where they are in real life? well... they are in college just waiting for you to meet them (the good colleges). And if that’s not good enough... women “far” outnumber men in college... which shifts the odds even further in our direction. The “trick” is to choose a “good” yet conservative private university. And yes, there are still conservative universities.
“The other important thing I got from college was ... time. Time to consider what I really wanted to do in life before I got bogged down in it and woke up at 35 wondering what happened?!”
Thousands of dollars, some of it in student loans or parents paying, for time to grow up?
Sorry. I went to college, one of the first in my family (as did my brother before me) to get the credits for a degree in a major that could support myself and a family. The fun college life was certainly a part of it. Wondering what happened at 35 wasn’t a part of it. It was life, just life, since the beginning of it.
Granted, college was awesome and I learned a lot about life then went to grad school while working full time to do what I wanted for a job, but college was also much less expensive back in the 80s for a State School (Penn State).
My four kids, knew that whole “growing up” thing or “time” thing wasn’t a part of their college...pick a major where you can support yourself and a family, where you can graduate in four years, pay back the minimal amount of loans, and treat it like the job it is.
I met my husband in college. Someone I couldn’t meet in my area of South Philly, so that was a huge plus. I got a B.S. degree and a M.S. degree and met my husband who was the sole income for most of our married life (BSEE) while I stayed home and raised our four kids.
And our four kids (all girls) were raised to be the sole income for their future families if need be: Mechanical Engineer, Music Producer (with Math as her other major because no kid of mine was majoring in just Music), Nurse, and Accountant when she graduates next year.
I met my husband in college at Penn State. Best thing that ever happened to me. My oldest, the Mechanical Engineer, met her soon to be husband at my 2nd daughter’s wedding-he was a groomsman (and he lives around the corner and went to same high school but they weren’t in the same grade and didn’t know each other). My 2nd oldest met her husband one month after her college graduation at a bar that has now closed. He also grew up a few blocks from here and attended the same high school but different grade.
My third, recent college grad, now a nurse at Penn in Philly, was with her high school boyfriend for 5 years until the breakup in May and now is dating a Financial Analyst she met at a local country music bar 18 months ago and started dating a couple months ago. I think her and her older sister will marry these guys and that’s awesome.
My youngest is a junior in college, majoring in Accounting and still with her high school boyfriend. We’ll see if they stay together, lol.
I met my “high quality” spouse in college. None of my kids have.