Personally I prefer a small 9mm - a Kahr PM-9, a Kimber Micro 9 (I own and carry those) or a Sig P938, the latter two if you like the quasi-1911 controls. These are a little bulkier than their .380 counterparts but I do like 9mm. All of the above I have experience with; there are lots more in that very popular category. YMMV.
I pocket carry Kahr PM9. The Kahr P380 is tiny compared to the 9, and easy to shoot imho.