You’re not getting me to enter that minefield.
Aw c’mon. They’re just teeny tiny mines. Just for fun.
IMHO you have just correctly defined the problem. In all to many businesses HR is a mine field.
All organizations from 8-year olds sand lot base ball teams up have “problem children” of various types. It used to be possible to correct the problem with lower level acts - counselling, bad work hours for a period of time, etc., and in extreme cases job termination.
But, in today’s world those tools don’t exist. You aren’t allowed to be judgmental - but, isn’t that what leaders are supposed to be? You can not enforce standards - but, isn’t that what makes successful companies? You can not focus on a “target” audience, you must be inclusive. But isn’t focusing on a “target audience” what enables start ups to succeed and grow?
Like it or not the possible loss of your job is a strong motivator to change you activities. If you can not be fired why change or restraint yourself? And, in today’s world who is most likely to be fired - a man or a woman?