God bless those who adopt children from other nations. I mean that. God bless those who adopt - period. They give a priceless gift, and their sacrifice is tremendous.
My wife and I know several couple who have done so. We are inspired by them.
But it is not always a picnic.
On the good side, we know a VERY successful couple who adopted 3 Chinese children. They already had 4 children of their own, but adopted. Today, all of their kids (adopted and biological) are incredible.
On the not so good side, we know couple who adopted kids that live a nightmare.
One adopted girl from Romania is mentally ill and psychotic. She is destructive and criminal. They have tried everything and spent over $100,000 to get her help, but it is all for nothing.
Another couple adopted a boy from Africa. He is emotionally and behaviorally a mess, and has made life for their biological two girls a living hell. They constantly ask for prayer in how to get through this.
Parental age is usually an issue. I don’t know of any couple in their late 40s who’ve had an adoption go through, unless it was grandparents adopting grandkids.