You’re right. And I think about that. But it is so far outside my own world that I’m not able to even put myself into their world enough to try to understand it. And usually I’m very good at empathy. Something else I was explicitly trained to as a child. My usual reaction is to just be intensely grateful that I don’t live inside their heads, which must be living hells. Then I go roll in something of beauty to shake off any lingering nastiness I might have picked up just thinking about the topic.
Congrats on your overcoming, perspective & skills. God’s best to you and those you love.