Posted on 12/02/2017 4:41:55 AM PST by Kartographer
Holden Bridges’ father flagged down a fire truck to ask if they could come to the party after none of Holden’s classmates came
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My son was about in second grade and an unpopular boy in his class had a party at a local Arby’s. He invited the entire class. No one showed up, but my son. I still get tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat thinking about it, and it was about 25 years ago. How can people be so cruel?
God bless these firefighters for cheering up a sad boy.
One of our neighbors had a birthday party for her kid and no one showed up. Her daughter had verbally announced to the kids in her class that she was having a birthday party the next day and they were all invited. I’m not surprised at the lack of attendance - if my kid came home from school on a Friday and said “Teresa said we’re all invited to her birthday party tomorrow” I may not have given much credence to such an invitation.
Another mom posted an invitation on her Facebook page - again, no attendees.
The mothers who had their kids hand out invitation cards a couple weeks prior to the event tended to have better experience with attendance.
I am not trying to pile on these heartbroken parents - the article doesn’t say what kind of invitation they sent or response they got - but if I had a special needs child, I’d make darn sure I knew how many kids were probably coming prior to the event, just because we hear about this kind of awful thing happening so often. There will always be couple no-shows, but it’s less likely that no one will come if everything is made abundantly clear prior to the day.
In any case, God bless the firefighters and I hope the boy never has to go through something like that again.
I feel horrible for the child.
My wife used to survey the moms about dates and times. There was always a concerted effort to include the “unpopular” kids.
Elementary and middle school years are horrible years.
I think the parents of the child need to have better situational awareness in those circumstances. Isn’t that the whole purpose of sending out invitations and having other parents RSVP in advance?
We made it a point to RSVP, attend, and bring a nice present to every party we were invited. The same thing happened to my son, no one showed up. From that point forward, we told him we were going to save the money for a party to buy him extra presents and take him out for a special birthday dinner. He stopped caring about parties after that.
Depends on why they were unpopular
I have found that many times the unpopular kids are self centered brats and the kids actually get it right.
I have 3 school age kids. You would be surprised how many people never rsvp; lately, it’s always a surprise on the day of who will show up.
The decline in manners is a bigger deal than some people think.
Politeness, holding doors, respect for others — these are the obvious things.
But inviting people ahead of time to an event is something which matters. Many people today just don’t think about that.
Providing an RSVP is something which matters. Many people today just don’t think about that.
A lot of people just have their heads down, staring at their smart phone. They just don’t think about what’s going on around them. This eats at society and social interaction. But it’s not just a smart phone thing. This has been in decline since the 60s.
Good thing you don’t have a child with a spectrum disorder. My son is super sweet and very funny, but struggles to pick up on social clues and is shy in groups. Kids ostracize anyone who is different. Thankfully, my son now has a small cadre of friends who were willing to see past that, but until you’ve had your child weep in your arms about how lonely they are and no one wants to play with them, I suggest you don’t know what you are talking about.
As I've gotten older, one of the attitudes I've adopted is that if something that isn't essential for survival aggravates me, I simply don't bother with it.
I find this to be much more of a problem among American-born families, and less of a problem among recent immigrants.
The Hispanics and Muslims I've dealt with over the years have been much more socially adept people than most of the Americans I deal with. And even among the Americans, it seems like the American-born adult children of parents who immigrated here 40-50 years ago are always better than their "real" American peers.
I teach my kids to never expect other people to make them feel good or accept them. As far as a spectrum disorder, that is not 5he other kids responsibility to deal with. I also teach my kids that everyone has their own cross to bear and they have to learn how to work through it. In my sons case it is mild to medium tourettes.
My wife used to survey the moms about dates and times. There was always a concerted effort to include the “unpopular” kids.
Elementary and middle school years are horrible years.
Forcing children to attend a party for someone they don’t like is just going to make it harder for the unpopular child later. I have a friend who’s little grandson is autistic. She’s thankful that he’s in a school that has a good program from autism and that he’s not getting picked on like he was still his old school.She never invites classmates to his birthday parties.
Forcing children to attend a party for someone they don’t like is just going to make it harder for the unpopular child later. I have a friend who’s little grandson is autistic. She’s thankful that he’s in a school that has a good program from autism and that he’s not getting picked on like he was still his old school.She never invites classmates to his birthday parties.
Forcing children to attend a party for someone they don’t like is just going to make it harder for the unpopular child later. I have a friend who’s little grandson is autistic. She’s thankful that he’s in a school that has a good program from autism and that he’s not getting picked on like he was still his old school.She never invites classmates to his birthday parties.
These are the guys the NFL hates. If there is hate to be had, its clear to me who it should be directed to.
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