You need to write some letters!
I think we, as males, have to get over our shame and silence and talk about the women who have put us in uncomfortable situations or out right harassed us.
I’ll start...
I took an unattractive friend to her senior prom. She had no date and I felt sorry for her. As we were leaving the prom she pushed me up against the car, kissed me, grabbed my crotch, and told me she wanted me to be her first.
I had an employee strip in the backroom and invite me to have sex.
While out with a friend, she insisted that we see a drive in porn movie. In the middle of the movie she decided to emulate what was going on on the screen.
My female boss asked me to work late and when everyone was gone, she flashed me and asked if I would play with her rather substantial breasts.
All of these were unwanted advances that made me feel very uncomfortable. These were friends or co-workers, not women I was, or ever would be, interested in. Some happened after I was married and the women knew I was married.
If we swapped the genders of those incidences, the men would be abusers and cads.
You need to write some letters!
We normal, real women think no more highly of those kinds of women than we do of those kinds of men.
They are also abusers and cads.
Matter of fact, that sort of thing has been happening for thousands of years, based on the account in Genesis of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife.